And then I saw that Melissa Fumero had been cast as Amy Santiago on Brooklyn Nine-Nine, and I felt my guts roll up into my throat and try to escape out of my mouth. Omgomgomgomg that’s it then. There’s no way in hell a major network is gonna cast two Latina actresses in such a tight ensemble show I AM SCREWED.
And then next day my agents called and told me I’d booked it.
I couldn’t believe it. I had been saying to my boyfriend the night before how there was JUST NO WAY. Normally, The Latina is a singular element of the ensemble she is working in. She’s there to provide contrast, or sexuality, or humor. Or she’s there to clean the floors and/or steal your man. There are some serious stereotypes very much alive in film and TV today, and The Latina is one of them.
Here’s the thing though. The world is changing. Slowly but surely, television is changing. The character stereotypes are changing, or being turned inside out by some fantastic writers and actors (I’m looking at you, Orange is the New Black, Scandal, and The Mindy Project). People of color are on TV playing roles that are fleshed out, complex, human. And yes, some of those characters are maids. Some are sexy heartbreakers there to steal your man. Some own BBQ joints, while some are Chiefs of Staff. Some are prisoners, and some are cops. All are real people with hopes, dreams, ambitions, fears, and all the other vast human emotions and desires…
…This is important. Because young women are watching TV, and they are getting messages about who they are in the world, who the world will allow them to be. And in big important steps, television is showing a reflection back to those young women that YOU CAN BE WHATEVER THE HELL YOU DAMN WELL PLEASE, and that two Latinas on one show is NORMAL. I think that’s a win for everybody."
inkskinned, “My father’s recipe for the man I should marry” (via partygirlmeltdown)
This is one of the most important things I have ever read and I wish I would have come across it sooner. This is real, this is important.
I think this changed everything I thought about loving a boy
you’re scared you’ll never find anyone to love you, not even well. you’ll settle for anything.
you’re about to turn twenty and they never remind you how young that is. falling in love does not make you grow up, heartbreak does, and there is more than one way to fall apart. you’re about to turn twenty and it’s okay if you aren’t ready. it’s okay if you aren’t ready. it’s okay."
Immigrants. First generation.
The first time in my life when I felt ‘different’ was when I moved to California when I was 12. It was a large adjustment. I didn’t feel like I fit in for the first time in my life. I didn’t feel like I had friends outside of my family. I didn’t feel like I was home.
Funnily enough that’s what started me making videos and doing what I do because it made me happy - and since I didn’t have a lot to make me happy, it’s what I kept going back to.
And again funnily enough, I was scared to tell my friends. I was terrified that they would find out until they kind of found out on their own. And now that I’m older I look back and I hate that I felt like that. I hate that I was groomed to be so fearful of what I was doing. I think you should embrace your individuality, what makes you different. I wish it wouldn’t have taken me so long to figure that out, but I guess that’s growing up.”"
If you had a friend dealing with the same things, you wouldn’t berate that person, say, ‘You’re not working hard enough,’ ‘You suck,’ or ‘You’re not as good as [whomever].’ You’d offer your friend encouragement, you’d try to point out all the things your friend did right, and how much progress your friend had made.
You should do no less for yourself.Be very careful how you talk to yourself. Because you are listening."